How Heavy is the Glass?

A young lady confidently walked around the room while leading and explaining stress management to an audience.  She raised a glass of water, and everyone knew she was going to ask the ultimate question, “half empty or half full?” ….She fooled them all… ”How heavy is this glass of water?”, she inquired with a smile. Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.

She replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter.  It depends on how long I hold it.  If I hold it for a minute, that’s not a problem.  If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my right arm.  If I hold it for a day, you’ll have to call an ambulance.  In each case it’s the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.”  She continued, “And that’s the way it is with stress.  If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won’t be able to carry on.”

“As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again.  When we’re refreshed, we can carry on with the burden-holding stress longer and better each time we practice.  So, as early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down.  Don’t carry them through the evening and into the night…pick them up tomorrow.

“Whatever burdens you’re carrying now, let them down for a moment.  Relax, pick them up later after you’ve rested.  Life is short.  Enjoy it and the now ‘supposed’ stress that you’ve conquered.”

Jacki Post Ashkin, LCSW-C


Jacki Post Ashkin is Director of Community Connections at Jewish Community Services.

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