Finding Forgiveness In Broken Resolutions
For the holidays one year I received everything I would need to stick to a healthier lifestyle: a few cookbooks, a new cutting knife, a Ninja blender and a food scale were among my generous lot. After cringing at the realization of how truly ‘adult’ my wish list was, I couldn’t’ wait to get home and start meal prepping. Visions of being in the best shape of my life danced around my head like Zumba instructors.
Embrace Your Awesomeness: Celebrating National Compliment Day
National Compliment Day is the perfect occasion to spread positivity, not only to those around you but also to yourself. In a world that often highlights flaws, taking a moment to acknowledge and compliment yourself is an act of self-love that can have lasting effects on your well-being.
Navigating Vermont Winters: A Sailboat Captain's Guide to Finding Joy in Hobbies.
“So, what do you do in the winter???”
This is the most frequently asked question that I get as a sailboat charter captain in Vermont. Vermont is not the first state that you’d picture for a boat captain, but it makes me a pretty in-tune expert on living seasonally. Come October, temperatures drop, boats come out of the water, and we are forced to live for 6 months as landlubbers.
Reflecting on the Year Ending: A Mental Health Check-In
As the year draws to a close, it's natural to find ourselves reflecting on the past 12 months. We celebrate our successes, learn from our challenges, and set new goals for the year ahead. However, this time of reflection can also have a profound impact on our mental health. In this blog, we'll explore the connection between the year ending and mental health and offer some valuable insights to help you navigate this period with mindfulness and self-compassion.
Self-Care through Self Awareness
What do I think of when I hear the term self-care? I used to think it meant going on retreats, shopping, and getting massages. I viewed self-care as a reward for doing a good job-- for getting an A on one of my papers or getting a compliment from a supervisor. Then I had a change of heart. My perception, perspective and attitude towards the idea and concept of self-care completely shifted.
Reigniting Your Creative Spark
Earlier this year, my professional role shifted. That change along with personal shifts and challenges meant my creative fire just kinda burned out one day. *Poof!* Since then, I’ve watched days, weeks, and months pass by wishing I felt inspired to be creative.
When it Comes to Grief, There are No Winners
Grief is a universal experience that transcends boundaries, cultures, and backgrounds. It's a complex and deeply personal emotion that we all must face at some point in our lives. Whether it's the loss of a loved one, the end of a relationship, a job, or even a cherished dream, grief is an emotion that unites us all. But one thing is certain – when it comes to grief, there are no winners.
My Summer of Self-Care
The term “self-care” isn’t totally accurate here. My summer was less of a watered down version of self-care like bubble-baths and massages (although, I love both!) and more of a summer of resetting my nervous system (it just doesn’t have the same catchiness for a title).
Owning Your Money Story
Our thoughts and behaviors around money are deeply rooted in our upbringing. How your family spoke, or didn’t speak, about money around you, their habits on spending, if there was financial struggle or instability that you feared.
The Art of a Meaningful Apology
Apologizing is one of the most important life skills we can acquire and put to use. Unfortunately, learning how to properly apologize is a skill that not everyone has mastered. Oftentimes, our ego gets in the way of a meaningful apology, which leads to defensiveness, excuses, and more hurt feelings. Some people may feel that apologizing and admitting fault is a weakness. However, this could not be further from the truth.
Of Substance
I’ve often said that addiction is the worst disease.
As a daughter of a mother who battled substance use disorder and a father currently battling Parkinson’s Disease, I do not say that lightly
Navigating A Narcissistic Parent
“But she’s your mom.” I have heard this phrase so often in my life. It’s drenched with the guilt that kept me sticking around for her abusive narcissistic behaviors.
For as long as I can remember, my mother has shown poor boundaries and a lack of support in my day-to-day life. Without getting into detail on the specifics of our relationship (or lack thereof) that led me to cut ties – again, I want to wave a little PSA flag to other people out there like me that reads, “You are not alone, and you can do hard things.”
Dropping Our Story
One of the biggest things I’ve encountered in my life lately is dropping my ego. By that I mean not taking everything so personally. Most of us have a story we tell ourselves about who we are. For me I often tell myself “I’m not good enough.” Then when something happens that isn’t what I was hoping for, i.e. someone telling me I could do something better, I take it to heart. I go right to that place of “I’m not good enough” or “I’m a bad person.”
Summertime
Most people say that they love summer— the extended days, more sunlight, better weather, a slower pace, the cookouts, vacations, the list goes on. But have you ever thought that maybe going to school for 12 years has just conditioned us to love summer because it was the only chance we got to slow down and do what we needed to for ourselves? It forced us into a much-needed break.
Grief
Grieving looks different for everyone and there is a wide array of reasons for grief. The stinging grief of a life cut short, grieving for a friend when she is told she may never be a mother, or seeing a life come to a natural close. In the past month, I have experienced all of these things.
The Best Version of You
Have you heard the saying “How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time.” I never really understood how to achieve big goals and eat my elephant until this past year. Since my son was born in September of 2020, I have experienced many physical and mental challenges.
Toxic Positivity 101
You're sitting down with your bestie for life having a girl's date over brunch and coffee. After some small talk, catching up on the past few months you haven’t been able to see one another, you tell her that recently you got let go from your position due to mass layoff. You break down when you spill the news because the lump in your throat got way too big to keep in. She runs around the table, gives you one of her infamous squeezy hugs and says “oh, honey, I’m so sorry. You can get another job!”
You Have to Go Through It
Every day I have to read We’re Going on a Bear Hunt by Michael Rosen. My husband introduced my son to this book a few months ago because he loved it when he was a child. I had never heard of it and, since I am not pro-hunting, I was turned off from the book title at first (spoiler: they don’t kill the bear). But the more I read it, the more profound I have found the message to be.
Cooking: Connecting to Our Bodies, Connecting to Pleasure
I am no food blogger, but I do enjoy food– and I do enjoy blogging. When the topic of cooking for mental health was suggested, I started reflecting on my own relationship with cooking. As tends to happen through writing, I thought my initial topic would be cooking and fun recipes (and it is! See below!), but I also discovered that cooking became a way for me to heal body image issues and nurture my relationship with my body.
5 Ways to Make a Mentally Supportive Space
Home is where your health begins. I’m a self-taught interior designer with a background in public health. I know intimately how your physical environment can impact your mental health. Since March 2020, we’ve become way more cognizant of our home space, but have we taken steps to make our home more supportive of our mental health journeys?